Have you ever been in such a hurry to be done with something, and when it's finally over you miss it? That happened to me with my last year of college... I was in such a hurry to get out that I didn't realize how much fun I was having! I was talking with Michael McMillan, author of Pink Bat and Paper Airplane the other day about this phenomenon. It's like that saying that goes, "The days are long, but the years are short" (if you know the origin, leave a comment...I've been trying to figure out the author for quite some time!). He just wrote a blog piece that I'd like to share with you on this subject titled, "Being Present":
A mother and her two children were seated a few tables away from my wife and me last night at dinner. The mom looked to be in her late 30s, her son around 14, and her daughter a few years younger than him. Perhaps it was because we were sitting in the corner or maybe it was just an acoustical phenomenon of sorts, but despite the relatively loud music, we could hear their conversation-perfectly.
The mom's remarks were short, but she seemed very focused on proper protocol… sit up straight, shut your mouth, sit still, leave your sister alone, use your fork, be quiet, ignore him, don't speak that way… and so on. Then I glanced over to discover her real focus—a mobile phone. She was texting and didn't want to be disturbed. Sadly, she continued doing so throughout the entire dinner. Try as they might, neither kid could get her to join them in their world—the real world. Both were vying (unsuccessfully) for her attention.
I tried ignoring them, but it was difficult. She was oblivious… unaware that some day she would look up and they'd be gone. I felt compelled to go over and explain to her that whatever it was she was texting about would almost certainly pale in comparison to spending this special time with her two offspring. But I didn't. "Maybe it takes grown children to be aware of these things," Anne suggested. She's probably right.
Even so, this mom seemed blind to the fact that precious moments only appear once-then they're gone-forever. That's how moments work. Each one is uniquely special… and then it's gone. Life happens with or without us. Our kids grow up, our peers and loved ones move on and eventually we all die… that's reality. Life exists within each moment… and when we aren't present, we miss it.
We can't travel back in time and do it again. In life there are no "do-overs"… this is it. The past and future exist only in our minds… the present is our only reality. Whether it's business, family or a random encounter with a stranger… don't waste your precious moments not being present. Reality is right now… this moment. For both the giver and receiver, being present is the greatest present of all… a real gift.
What are some times that you wish had lasted longer? What do you look forward to in the future? How do you stay in the moment?