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We can all choose to live a less stressful life. But how do we make the right choices to get rid of stress? Follow these 5 tips to strip away your stress so you can live life blissfully!
1. Slow down to go faster.
By slowing down we can take time to discover our purpose and choose to fully live it each and every day…Making a move to the right hand lane may make you think things and life are going to pass you by. Yet, choosing to slow down lets us enjoy the road along the way, it can supercharge us to reach our ultimate destination.
This stress-relief tip is from Stress Is a Choice by David Zerfoss.
2. Set clear goals.
When you decide upon a goal, you override your failure mechanism and change the direction of your life. You go from being a rudder, drifting with the tide, to becoming a ship with a rudder, a compass and a clear destination, sailing straight toward your destination.
This stress-relief tip is from The Power of Discipline by Brian Tracy.
3. Schedule your priorities.
Life can become very full very fast. If we first block off time for who and what is most important in our lives, it can actually free us up to really focus on all the rest.
This stress-relief tip is from Stress is a Choice by David Zerfoss.
4. Squeeze the most out of your day.
Write down the six most important things you need to accomplish. Not only will you start tomorrow ready to go, but subconsciously, you’ll also be working on those six projects while you sleep.
This stress-relief tip is from Stuck on Stop by Vicki Hitzges.
5. Visualize yourself as you want to be.
There is a special way that you can accelerate your progress toward becoming the highly productive, effective, efficient person that you want to be. It consists of your thinking continually about the rewards and benefits of being an action-oriented, fast-moving, focused person. See yourself as the kind of person who gets important jobs done quickly and well on a consistent basis.
This stress-relief tip is from Eat That Frog! by Brian Tracy.
Sometimes stress is unavoidable, but remember that we can choose to have less stress. Have great tips for stress relief? Share ‘em in the comments! You can also find more tips on our Stress Relief board on Pinterest.
All of these tips are featured in our most popular books on personal development and stress management. For more tips on how to stress less, check out our personal development books.
Christopher Reeve said these words, and his quote captures the essence of what our motivational book Walk the Talk is all about.
It reminds us that having values is important, but living them is much more important...that words without deeds are nothing!
QUESTION: What does "courage" have to do with being a person of good character...with someone who stays true to their principles and their values?
You see, being values-driven means two things:
Doing what's right - following our conscience; refusing to compromise our principles, despite pressures and temptations to the contrary, and
Taking a stand against what's wrong - speaking out, whenever we see others do things that are incorrect or inappropriate.
Unquestionably, both of those require guts and fortitude...they require courage.
Following your conscience instead of "following the crowd".
Refusing to take part in hurtful or disrespectful behaviors.
Sacrificing personal gain for the benefit of others.
Speaking your mind even though others don't agree.
Taking complete responsibility for your actions...and your mistakes.
Following the rules - and insisting that others do the same.
Challenging the status quo in search of better ways.
Doing what you know is right- regardless of the risks and potential consequences.
I'd like to share the "Cadet Prayer" that is repeated during chapel services at the U.S. Military Academy:
"Make us to choose the harder right instead of the easier wrong, and never to be content with a half truth when the whole truth can be won. Endow us with the courage that is born of loyalty to all that is noble and worthy, that scorns to compromise with vice and injustice and knows no fear when truth and right are in jeopardy."
That is truly the essence of courage.
Have you read our motivational gift book Walk the Talk? How do you walk your talk?
Brian Tracy said..."Eighty percent of life's satisfaction comes from meaningful relationships." Think about it...when you look back at the end of your life what will really matter? Five words...the quality of your relationships.
So here's the question: If your relationships are the most important part of your life, what are you doing to make them all they can be?
The 100/0 Principle may be the most important book you'll ever read.
For me, it ranks in the top 3...ever! The message is truly life-changing.
You've probably heard me say, it's not what you say, but how you say it, that turns the switch from "off" to "on." In fact, our book,212°...The Extra Degree, is a great example of that, but...The 100/0 Principle is even better. The examples, the stories, the quotes provoke many "a-ha" moments. Simply put, this is a book that can make your marriage better and greatly improve your relationships with family members, friends, co-workers and...even your boss.
Here's a brief excerpt from The 100/0 Principle. Enjoy!
What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It's The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.
Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.
The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.
At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to being the "Learner." Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like "that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong," "I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you," "that's just the way it is," "I need to tell you what I know," etc.
- STEP 1 - Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
- STEP 2 - Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
- STEP 3 - Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take the bait.
- STEP 4 - Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don't respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.
Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I wonder if there is anything of value here," "I wonder if..." etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!
This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.
Today, I'm happy to share a guest post from a friend, Martyn Green. Martyn is a Master Mind Mentor, and has devoted his life to inspiring others. To learn more about his efforts to motivate others, check out the Master Mind website. Please enjoy a special article from Martyn!
To begin with I would like to ask you a question and to think carefully about your answer. "Have you ever been faced with an opportunity but declined to take it because of a lack of courage"?
Before answering that we need to know exactly what is courage? The Merrian-Webster online dictionary defines it as: Mental or moral strength to venture, persevere and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.
I like to think of it as choosing the right thoughts to give me the mental strength to persevere in the direction of my goals without allowing fear or difficulty to stop me from reaching them.
15 years ago I was struck down with chronic back pain which totally turned my and my families life upside down! The pain was so bad at times that I could only relieve it by lying down and on some occasions this involved bed rest for up to 6 months! Not good when you have a young daughter aged 3!
Even sitting and driving was so painful that it made day to day life impossible at times. The Doctors could only give me pain killers and the prognosis wasn't very good!
But with courage in my heart I never once entertained the thought that this was how my life was going to be and that I just had to accept it! I knew with certainty even through my darkest hours that one day I would be pain free and lead a normal life again! Thankfully I can say that with courage and belief in myself and my abilities this is now a reality!
This now asks me to pose another question "why is courage such a vital ingredient to want success"?
A friend of mine answers it this way:
"Courage is essential to achieving success because without it you go nowhere. It is the opposite of fear, it is preceded by the essential ingredient of faith that belief in certainty and it is at the heart of action and the muscle needed for us to persevere."
"Courage is the element that causes us to press on in spite of the naysayers and all kinds of adversity. It is one of the major defining points between success and failure.
So how do we supplement courage?
First of all we need to sit down in a quiet place and ask our self what is important to me in life, what values do I have, what interests and resonates with me and how do I want to express this?
This leads us to realise what our definite chief aim and purpose in life is and to turn this in to our major goal.
For me it was the realization that from early childhood, I had always enjoyed helping people and that this has now developed into helping people achieve their goals by becoming my definite chief aim and purpose in life.
Once you realise exactly what your own definite aim and chief purpose is it starts to become a part of you and is constantly in your thoughts. It becomes a white hot desire that spurs you on into action.
It is this action that then leads to positive results which in turn gives you the courage to press forward into unknown territory to make the changes that our goal will make.
As we start to make these changes in our life we will all get moments of fear. Fear is in essence just a flashing red light or a warning signal. Fear is not a cause to quit. Ironically, we should be grateful for a good dose of fear, as this is what heightens our awareness, intensifies our thoughts and gives us a bit of an edge.
We should also be grateful when we experience fear, because it's a strong indicator of change and that we are getting nearer to our goal!
To quote Napoleon Hill from his all time classic book "Think & Grow Rich" - "Nature has endowed human beings with absolute control over only one thing - and that is thought. This fact coupled with the additional fact that everything that human beings create begins in the form of a thought; an idea leads one very near to the principle by which fear may be mastered".
In other words by knowing our chief aim and definite purpose, by making this our major goal and by choosing the right thoughts we can endow ourselves with the courage to master all our fears and succeed in our goals no matter how big they may seem to be!
Now that we know how to supplement courage, how do we start to implement it in the development of our chief aim and goal?
A good way to start is to form a mastermind alliance with like minded people and this is where Mastermind to Personal Power can help.
MasterMind to Personal Power's work is based on Napoleon Hill's Law Of Success. We teach people who join a MasterMind group the principles behind "The Science of Consciousness". The group learns to "harmonically cooperate" in manifesting each other's goals. Everyone grows in the self confidence derived from participating and experiencing the unconditional love and support their MasterMind group affords them.
Each member of the MasterMind group continues to meet for an hour weekly. The training lessons are short but complete and prepare each of the members to become the facilitator of their own group if they wish. New MasterMind groups form and begin the process all over again. In this way members of our company learn about the most important information in the history of mankind and pass it on and on.
Courage is having faith, that certainty and belief that you will succeed in reaching your goals even in the face of adversity.
To quote Winston Churchill "Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm."
Courage is essential to achieving success because without it you go nowhere. We supplement courage by choosing goals that resonate and are in harmony with us.
At the beginning of my article I asked you the question "have you ever been faced with an opportunity but declined to take it through having a lack of courage"? Now in closing I have two other questions that I would like to ask. First "how are you going to apply what you've learned today"? And secondly "if you knew you could only succeed and that failure wasn't an option, what is the one thing that you would truly want to do with your life"?
Think about that right now and make a decision to act positively and make a leap of faith to do it right here and now!
Today, we're happy to share a special article from Eric Eccles, founder of GenerationAwareness.org. Please enjoy!
The word ‘purpose’ in the dictionary is described as: something that one intends to get or do; or the object for which something exists or is done with intention and planning. Here's my interpretation of this word. I believe that purpose is an idea of completeness, a goal, mission, or dream that is intrinsically desired to the point of true ambition and intention. Whether we keep a purpose in view with conscious persistence is the question to our happiness in life. In all, a purpose is a dream or passion that has carefully been thought through and studied until it has become a master plan that is put into action.
How we develop our purpose is one of the keys to our happiness and fulfillment in life. So finding your life purpose may start with questions like: Why do you feel you are here? There are so many answers to this question, but what is it that really sticks out in your mind, what answer, when carefully thought out, gives you a powerful sense of good for everyone around you and in your world at this moment in time?
What do you love?
What are the most valuable feelings and accomplishments in your life?
What motivates me with what I truly desire out of life?
Now that you've answered these questions, I'm sure that you are well on your way to understanding your true purpose in life. I know from experience the more you think about this, the more defining your purpose of life will become. As each one of us grows through this life journey we become what we consistently contemplate and think about.
If we live in fear (negative thoughts) of something long enough, then eventually we will draw this to us, and it will be manifested in our lives.
If we believe and have never ending faith in something and stay persistent with and mold our thoughts to a specific purpose in this life experience, then the rewards manifested will be limitless. The next few questions below are going to take you a little bit of time to complete. If you don't feel that you can answer these questions completely at this time then relax. Take a day or two to think this through. Remember, as you evolve your purpose may shift or mold and take different avenues. This may be a better position in your career or a completely different career. In many people that begin to experience this greater awareness of life’s purpose there is suddenly change that comes in many forms. Maybe they pick up their roots and travel to other lands or begin a new business adventure that allows them to wake up each morning and live their life purpose. In any direction that you decide to venture and accept as your life purpose, be prepared to experience more enjoyment and enthusiasm than ever before. You can trust yourself that by doing this you will grow in more ways then you could ever imagine.